So there may be a boy I have a crush on. Ok, so there is most definitely a boy I have a crush on. Boy might just happen to be one of my really good friends up here at the Y. And, with my past experience with liking boys, things tend not to end well.
I get super jealous really easily. (And not just about boys. One of my best friends could be hanging out with someone else, and I would get jealous. It's bad.) And when my group of friends contains of three times as many girls as boys, I tend to feel jealous a lot. Just tonight, I got jealous at Tunnel Singing because Boy was not standing next to me. In fact, he moved from standing next to me. (And anyone reading this who was at tunnel singing with me now knows who this boy is. But, then again, they probably knew before....)
When I am sitting in my room, I look at myself and know I am really beautiful, and I feel confident. Then I go out in the world, with all of my gorgeous friends, and think "How could he ever like me when all these other girls are around?" Don't get me wrong, I do not by any means think I am ugly or anything, I just feel like I can't compare to those around me. So complements mean the world to me. A simple "You look cute today!" or "I love your shoes!" can make my whole day. I definitely want everyone to like me.
Ok, so enough ranting. I need advice. Boy advice. So hopefully there are boys reading this so they can give me advice, because girl's boy advice tends not to be so helpful. :P
Should I tell Boy that I like him? Should I drop hints or just flat out say it? Or should I just forget about him because he is a Pre-Mi anyway? Most advice I get is to tell him, because boys are oblivious. So, boys, if your really good friend had a crush on you, would you want her to tell you, or would that just make things awkward? (and I tend to be awkward anyways...)
My sophomore year, I had a crush on my best guy friend. Somehow he found out (probably because I acted really wierd around him.) Once he found out, things just became super awkward. It wasn't fun to be around him anymore. Even after I stopped liking him, things were never quite the same.
I am worried that this will happen again. I would much rather just be friends with Boy than make things really awkward between us. But, what if there is some slight chance that he aybe, might, possibly like me back? This is why I'm confused and need your help!!!! Gah! Or maybe I should just buy a bunch of cats and live my life with them. (Please don't say that, because I don't like cats....)
So, please help me. (I know this is a boring blog post with no pictures or anything, so if you made it this far, congrats! Give yourself a pat on the back. And give me advice. And follow my blog. And take me to Disneyland. Thanks!)
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ReplyDeleteThanks! I figured most girls would be telling me to tell him, but like I said in my story above, that didn't turn out so well for me. I guess I'm just worried he is going to think it is really wierd I like him. I don't know. :P
DeleteEh, I dunno if you should tell him. Just play it cool! ;)
ReplyDeletePlus, it might make your friend group awkward if things don't work out. Me and this ASU boy kissed and had a thing but then we decided to be friends because we are in a tight-knit friend group. It kinda sucks but now I don't have to worry about things becoming all messed up.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, if he's cute enough, GO FOR IT! <3
Haha, thanks Katelyn! And I am worried about making the friend group awkward... I don't know, we are just so similar. :P I guess I should just let it play out.
DeleteI like how "I kissed this ASU boy" completely blew over. It's like oh, Katelyn kissed a boy? And now they're just friends? What a shocker. And so goes my life.
DeleteHaha, i didn't want to make a big deal out of it, but if it was a big deal then...
DeleteHOLY CRAP KATELYN! You kissed a BOY!?!? What's his name, is he cute, give me the deets! ;)
(I'm only partially kidding, my reaction wasn't that intense, but I do want to know!)
Guys hate drama. End of story.
ReplyDeleteKai:
ReplyDeleteDrop a few hints, if he does not respond chances are he does not want anything to change.
Kai,
ReplyDeleteLiking a boy, though it may go well for a while, is not going to end well until you get married! Enjoy getting to know different personalities so that when it does end well with a man (no boys) you will be happily married. And 28. Did I mention you should be 28 years old?
HUGS!
Auntie W.
Whatever you decide to do or not do about confessing your feelings to Boy, whose name should really be Lucky Boy since Kai likes him, maybe the jealousy thing is something you'll want to dump. I promise you'll be so much happier when it's out of your system instead of gobbling up your peace of mind and getting in your way. I used to get jealous like you do, of friends and boys, even after I married the greatest guy on Planet Earth, till I started working on changing those feelings and learning to be more secure. It takes time and practice, but life is so much nicer without jealousy. I know that's not the advice you were looking for, but hey. I'm old as dirt now, so I can ramble a little, can't I? : ) Good luck with Lucky Boy.
ReplyDeleteThis looks like it might be a decent article on the subject: http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-and-Abandon-Jealousy . Tell me what you think!